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There is a vacuum of purpose within most men. A man with no purpose is like a fire with no heat. He goes through the motions committing himself to effort and work without a feeling of fulfillment. If it persists it can leave him needing constant distraction, leaving him depressed and stifled.

The world is lacking ritual processes in boys becoming men. What are the milestones that indicate this right of passage is happening? Is it getting his driver’s license? Or when he turns an age that society defines as an adult? He doesn’t have the biological indicators like menstruation that women do, ushering him into the undeniable reality of responsibility.

He needs to be guided into manhood by his community, by the men that have gone before him.

Brotherhood and council is traditionally how men grow, learn, and hold themselves accountable. A man needs space to be vulnerable and to experience challenges in equal measure. He needs brotherhood to be guided through the stages of life; he needs the responsibility of serving his brotherhood by leading the men that follow.

Men need to engage themselves and become competent in at least one skill. A man needs to be willing to get his hands dirty, to learn new skills, to take honour in his attention and quality of his work. He cannot rely exclusively on other men being able to solve his problems without taking the opportunity to engage and learn the skill.

Men are softening and shying away from the discomforts of life. The grounded masculine leans into these times and considers it an opportunity. A man who consistently chooses comfort and ease over pain and discomfort is unable to rise to the challenge when called upon. He will downgrade himself to victimhood with excuses for why he is unable to evolve and meet the expectations of life.